Grief is not contagious.
Grieve Forward is a personal grief blog that focuses on the ups and downs of grief, and what it’s really like to lose your person. Posts are transparent, but we aim to provide tips to supporters to help them better assist others through loss. While this blog is a resource and support network for all experiencing grief, our content is hyper-focused on the raw realities of caregiving, terminal illness and young widowhood.
Nothing prepares you for the emotions that come with losing your person.
Knowing your time is limited can be both a curse and a blessing.
The only predictable factor in life is that life is unpredictable.
“A Gem in a Sea of Stones.”
Grieve Forward began as a personal grief blog in July 2019 after Mark Schmorrow lost his lifelong battle with Adrenomyeleneuropathy: a relentless and unforgiving neurological disorder that affects approximately 14,000 people in the United States annually. While the disease primarily affects men, women are carriers and generally show symptoms of the disease as they mature into adulthood.
Unbeknownst to Mark, over time his AMN progressed into his brain, compromising his mobility, cognitive abilities, memory, sight and so much more. In just 16 months, Mark’s disease progressed so very rapidly, it stumped his doctors, who were well-versed in its severity.
Mark didn’t really slow down in life despite his disease. A lover of wheelchair racing, Mark competed in two BAA Marathons and was devoted to taking good physical care of himself. A devoted husband and loving step-father, Mark will be remembered most for his determination, kind nature, and heart-warming belly laugh.
Grief isn’t Contagious
Grieving people are terribly misunderstood and that needs to change. Every one of us has had to endure grief, ready or not. As non-grievers, we’re typically uncomfortable talking to and being around grieving people. Mostly because we don’t know what to say or what the right thing is to say. So instead, we avoid saying the wrong thing, and say safer (and often silly) things.
Grief is tough to navigate. People either dance delicately around the subject or avoid talking about it entirely. This is because witnessing grief makes people terribly uncomfortable. But if we allow ourselves to become comfortable with uncomfortable situations (and become more empathetic in the process!) we can really help a grieving person, sometimes without realizing it.
Being around grieving people is uncomfortable, but being uncomfortable isn’t contagious, and neither is grief.
Your grief journey is your own. There are no exit ramps and there are no short cuts, so navigate it however you see fit, because the journey is unique to all of us.
Even “expected” death is not the peaceful, quiet situation we often envision.
Grief is a Journey
Grief causes serious heartbreak and leaves huge voids in our hearts. Finding a new hobby or task can help grieving people to better channel, address and process these emotions as they come and ignite their creative energies.
Crocheting helps keep our hands busy, creates something both beautiful and useful, and each piece is 100% original. Because work is tied directly to emotions, patterns and color palettes vary. For Laurie, each stitch tells a small piece of her grief journey. Plus, a portion of each piece sold supports others in need.